Stage of Life
Prioritizing “us” amidst all the moving parts.
What do we do when Life gets Lifey?
Tending to our partnerships takes time and attention when things are stable. But when something happens to upend that stability, even if it’s something chosen and exciting, intentional connection can easily become low-priority. There are certain stages of life in which couples tend to struggle, and they’re often times of transition (having babies, changing jobs, going back to school, moving, etc)
Connection in the face of chaos:
We can’t be known if we don’t feel safe. Increase emotional security by paying attention to attempts at connection and responding rather than reacting.
Impasse moments exist in all marriages. Learn how to stop trying to be “right,” start really hearing one another, and start connecting in spite of the unsolvable problem
You’re on the same team, remember? Become collaboration ninjas, finding creative ways to meet more needs more of the time.
A lot of the couples I work with:
Miss when they used to talk about everything. Now, it’s mostly about planning and logistics.
Don’t feel like their partner always understands where they’re coming from and what feels true for them.
Feel too overwhelmed to make time to intentionally connect. There just aren’t enough hours in the day!
Report that things are okay, but that they often just kind of feel like roommates.
Does any of this sound familiar?
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