Added Complexity
Living outside the box. Loving outside the lines.
If the template doesn’t work, you make a new one.
We often look to culture and community to draw the blueprints for how to move through our lives; what happens when a blueprint doesn’t work for us? What if divorce doesn’t have to be ugly and awful? What if, following a betrayal, you could rebuild a marriage that is stronger and more trusting than before? What if you could be fully transparent and vulnerable about the gifts and struggles of having multiple partners and normalize the complex stew of feelings and logistics inherent in open/poly arrangements? There is no rulebook here. You get to make and claim choices that work best for you and you can do it with honesty, kindness, and care.
Discernment and Creativity:
Examine the power dynamics and needs specific to your blended or poly/open family and create boundaries that foster safety and comfort
Dissolve your marriage with dignity and honor the hurt and grief inherent in divorce in a way that respects the unique experience of both partners
Navigate co-parenting in a post-divorce or blended context that secures stability for kiddos and clarifies roles and responsibilities for grown-ups
Make room for all pieces and perspectives of a betrayal experience and let grief and hurt alchemize into the building blocks for a new and safer partnership
A lot of the couples I work with:
Have decided to divorce and want to make choices that are respectful and kind, honoring shared history and tender hearts.
Include a partner who has recently come out and want support navigating the aftermath of a major identity shift inside their marriage.
Have recently blended their families and are struggling to meet the ever-changing needs of all people involved
Are cleaning up the wreckage of a betrayal and want safe, guided space to discern next steps.
Are traversing the unpredictable road of open marriage or polyamory and desire help maintaining security and connection
Does any of this sound familiar?
Connect well, your way.