Difficulty with trust isn't always born of outright lying. Sometimes folks struggle to let their partners see their inner world because of past hurts. Other times they don't say what they need to say because they're afraid of hurting feelings. In session, we'll work to make what is implicit--unstated expectations, assumptions, inner turmoil, hidden fears--explicit and strengthen your faith in your partner's ability to see and care for all of you.

This is what most couples say they want to do better when they call to book a session. So much of communication is non-verbal and most of what we take in is colored by stories we make up in our heads. Honing the ability to read and trust what your partner's body is saying is a superpower. Work on speaking your truth and needs clearly, and consciously attending to your partner with patience, kindness, and curiosity.

Common hinderances to productive conflict resolution are: getting caught in the fight-flight-freeze response to triggers, getting bogged down in the details of an argument and missing the underlying need, and dying on the hill of being right. We'll interrogate and dismantle old patterns of disagreement, learn co-regulatory skills, and build a new structure for navigating disagreement productively.

It's tough to feel satisfied in a relationship when partners feel at odds about what they each value and desire. When people forget that what's best for the partnership is what's best for the individuals, relationship often becomes adversarial. Sessions can help you function as a team, using humor, creativity, and seduction as tools.

When relationships fall into autopilot or turmoil it can be difficult to remember how fun it is doing life with your favorite person. Tune into why you chose each other in the first place, reinvigorate your sense of adventure and play, and examine hinderances to and initiators of your own desire